Michelle Knudson, Yahoo! Contributor Network
You can tell very much about a man by his actions and responses to certain things. Here are six things men should have before you get married.
Motivation To Be Successful in Life
You do not want to be a man that is not motivated to be the best that he can be. You want to know that a man will be a good provider for the whole family now and forever. You need to realize that it is a ton of work for a man to work and go to school while married. You need to emotionally support a man in ways that motivates him to be even further successful in life. It is you and him together as a team so make it work. Successful business owners have enough motivation that is needed in a romance relationship to take care of you too. Successful people are not lazy.
You want a man that is stable. You want a man that has a home. You don't want to be with a man that has a roommate all the time due to finance troubles. You don't want a man that moves around too much more than one normally does unless he is in the military or something of that sort. You want to be with a man that can provide you with a stable home to live in without needing to move around unless you have certain circumstances in life. For Example, Musicians are often on the road several times through the year
Safe Reliable Vehicle
You need to be with a man that knows that it is important to have a safe and reliable vehicle. You want a man that wants you to have the best car possible that is safe for you and future children. It is important that a man does not control you with tactics such as not allowing you to have a vehicle.
High Paying Job
You need to make sure that he is able to provide for the family. He needs to have a pretty secure job that pays a decent salary. Salary is very important since it dictates the kind of life that you will have with him. You don't want to stay in the poor house forever.
Non Abusive Behaviors
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Sunday, February 20, 2011
Friday, February 18, 2011
Signs that Say He's Just Not into You; Recognize How to Spot Mr. Wrong so You Can Make Room for Mr. Right
Absorbed or Mr. Afraid of Commitment. Whatever his romantic style, it's just leaving you confused, frustrated and wondering what's really going on in his mind. So, let's spotlight the warning signs to look out for when a guy simply is not that into you or playing you.
The Physical Signs
He'll avoid eye contact, his body is positioned away from you, his arms are folded tightly over his chest, he does not encourage conversation or volunteers anything about himself. He maintains his distance.
The Emotional Signs
You've been dating for at least 6 months. He still can't say he loves you or wants to talk about his feelings in regards to you. If you have a guy who is constantly telling you that he does not love you, is not in love with you, is not sure how he feels and does not see a future with you after the 6 month mark, believe him. I feel that is a good marker of time for him to know where he sees this going and if he is developing strong feelings for you or loves you. When a guy is into you, he'll want to let you know how he feels when he is sure that you feel the same way. If he can't do that, start re-assessing what you are still doing with him.
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Learning to love yourself isn't easy -- especially if you're a survivor of childhood abuse or neglect. But there
are things you can do to boost your self-love.
Ask for a list of things people like about you.
Sometimes it can be hard to find things we like or love about ourselves. So -- ask other people to tell you all
the things they like about you. Ask a friend, a lover, a therapist. This isn't a replacement for your own love;
it's a first step in learning to love yourself. You may need to hear the things other people like about you
before you can value them in yourself.
If hearing what people like about you is hard, ask your friends to write it down for you, or leave it on your
voice mail, so you can read/listen to it over and over. Go back to it as many times as you can. Even if you
don't believe that someone can like a particular thing about you, or you don't believe it exists, trust that your
friend does see it and value it.
When you start to hear critical voices inside your head, go back to those things your friend said/wrote about you, and remember that you are loved.
Make a list of the things you like about yourself.
Make a list of all the things you like about yourself. Be as honest as you can. Modesty doesn't help you
here; neither do old critical messages. If you're having trouble finding things you value about yourself, think
about the things you value and love in your friends, then see if those things exist inside you, too. Most
often, they do.
Fill a special notebook with your list, or create a set of cards. Make the notebook as beautiful as you can --
make it something that makes you feel good when you look at it. Then open it up and look at it any time
you're feeling down or critical about...
Monday, February 14, 2011
February 14 is Valentine's Day. Although it is celebrated as a lovers' holiday today, with the giving of candy, Valentine flowers, or other gifts between couples in love, it originated in 5th Century Rome as a tribute to St. Valentine, a Catholic bishop.
For eight hundred years prior to the establishment of Valentine's Day, the Romans had practiced a pagan celebration in mid-February commemorating young men's rite of passage to the god Lupercus. The celebration featured a lottery in which young men would draw the names of teenage girls from a box. The girl assigned to each young man in that manner would be his sexual companion during the remaining year.
In an effort to do away with the pagan festival, Pope Gelasius ordered a slight change in the lottery. Instead of the names of young women, the box would contain the names of saints. Both men and women were allowed to draw from the box, and the game was to emulate the ways of the saint they drew during the rest of the year. Needless to say, many of the young Roman men were not too pleased with the rule changes.
Instead of the pagan god Lupercus, the Church looked for a suitable patron saint of love to take his place. They found an appropriate choice in Valentine, who, in AD 270 had been beheaded by Emperor Claudius.
Claudius had determined that married men made poor soldiers. So he banned marriage from his empire. But Valentine would secretly marry young men that came to him. When Claudius found out about Valentine, he first tried to convert him to paganism. But Valentine reversed the strategy, trying instead to convert Claudius. When he failed, he was stoned and beheaded.
During the days that Valentine was imprisoned, he fell in love with the blind daughter of his jailer. According to folklore, his love for her, and his great faith, managed to miraculously heal her from her blindness before his death. Before he was taken to his death, he signed a farewell message to her, "From your Valentine." The phrase has been used on his day ever since.
Although the lottery for women had been banned by the church, the mid-February holiday in commemoration of St. Valentine was still used by Roman men to seek the affection of women. It became a tradition for the men to give the ones they admired handwritten messages of affection, containing Valentine's name.
The first Valentine card grew out of this practice. The first true Valentine card was sent in 1415 by Charles, duke of Orleans, to his wife. He was imprisoned in the Tower of London at the time.
Cupid, another symbol of the holiday, became associated with it because he was the son of Venus, the Roman god of love and beauty. Cupid often appears on Valentine cards.
Thursday, February 3, 2011
There’s nothing wrong with choosing yourself in a relationship. In fact that’s exactly what you should do! Author and life coach Christine Arylo feels having a positive relationship with yourself is so important that she has written the new book Choosing Me Before We to put women on the right path. Arylo breaks it down for us on how to choose ME before WE with 3 principles:
Live from the Inside Out
Know what you want from life, regardless of what anyone else wants or says.
Your life has to be about your dreams, passions and gifts first.
Only choose partners who help you achieve your goals and who inspire you to be your best you.
You’ve got to know who you are and live from that centered place all the time.
Without self-awareness, you’ll mold to fit your partner or your relationship, and no matter what you may tell yourself, you won’t be happy.
This is your life. Live it the way you want and find a partner who’s up for the ride.
Know What and Who You Want in A Partner and Why
Why do I want a relationship, as in how does it make my life better?
What kind of relationship do I really want at this time?
Who is the person I want to be in a relationship with, regardless of who my mate is today?
Tuesday, February 1, 2011
Astrology, can be used as a powerful and fun tool for understanding ourselves, others, and the world around us. Many different tools, or languages, to define and understand our world. For example, we can use psychological tools and terminology to explore human behavior. Similarly, Astrology gives us rich tools for understanding human character, and offers us a language for communicating our observations with others.
While we can use the natal chart (also called a birth chart or horoscope) as a "window" into any individual or event, we should never use it to pass judgment or to label people. Neither should we use it as an excuse for our behavior! We can never purport to know absolutely everything about someone just because we have their natal chart before us. It is a good idea to approach Astrology as an imperfect language. Even if it were perfect, we are not, so our interpretations can never be considered anywhere close to perfect. It follows to be wary of anyone claiming to be an Astrologer who also alleges to "know all", or makes dire predictions. This kind of practice is not only irresponsible and misleading, it can affect the lives of those who believe them in adverse ways.
Fashion Astrology is a Western zodiac trend based program that describes the fashion profiles of the different sun signs. This program gives a better idea about the fashion styles of people under the different signs of the zodiac. Astrology acts as a guide by telling you more about what you prefer when it comes to dressing. It also makes good reading if you are thinking of buying clothes as a gift for someone.
Astrologer Jacqueline Cordeiro is our featured Goddess this month. She will gives tips on how to dress well and looks suggest, according to the profile of each sign and the position of the stars in the week in our blog every month.